I have stopped doing New Year’s Resolutions. It has been like 8 years. I realized it a long time ago that most of the New Year resolutions are forgotten by February. Eventually around March end you realize:
“Damn … I have stopped working out because I was so busy at work”
“Damn I forgot to register for that exam” or
“Damn I forgot to sign up for that painting class I wanted to try for so long”
All mere excuses to cushion the guilt that surrounds your inner “Mr./Ms. Ambitious”… and then you are in this vicious cycle of underachieved goals. This leads to you getting frustrated; first at the incomplete goal…then at yourself.
Our craving for the feeling of achievement leads to our eventual distress.
I have started a book by Mark Manson. We all know what I am talking about. The Subtle Art of Not giving a F*ck. I have yet to complete it…but there are so many quotes that I just want to share and talk about ===>
The desire for more positive experience is itself a negative experience. And, paradoxically, the acceptance of one’s negative experience is itself a positive experience.
― Mark Manson,
Therefore, my motto in life is “if you are not doing it already, it’s either you don’t have it prioritized or that you do not really want to do it at all”.
Real Life Application
That is why right before my birthday (December) I made a resolution: I am going to add at least some exercise in my day. I decided walk more. And I just started. In the middle of the week. On A TUESDAY! How annoying is that?! But I did; 3 km a day to be exact. I decided and I did. I didn’t delay it. Mostly because I didn’t pressure myself into thinking about the number of Kg I am secretly wishing to shed. (Of course I want to lose weight.)
Sometimes thinking of the bigger picture actually distracts you. You feel it is too far-fetched and unattainable. That is why my baby-step is to walk more…and now that I am a regular since over a month I am going add some cardio into my schedule. Slow and steady. And if I lose some weight in the process? Wth. Good enough 😀
So don’t wait for the 1st of the month … or the beginning of the year. Just decide, and do.