My last post was triggered when I met a this girl who is looking to get married ASAP. The mother of this poor girl kept telling me to advise her regarding marriage, and how she needs to change her self if she wants to “land a suitable match” and all the Do’s and Don’ts of living with the in-laws etc etc. I thought to myself, all this effort in molding your daughter; why can’t people put like 20% of that effort in their boys.
Here are the Top 4 things that should be said to the Guys
Always respect women
Treat them like you would want your mom/sister to be treated.
Women are sentimental and compassionate beings
They may yell at you one second but the next she will be in the kitchen making you a delicious meal. So when she is cranky, just lend her an ear. She may not have anyone else to talk to. She spends all day taking care of your home and family. It is the only thing that gets her through her day.
Learn the art of BALANCE
It is the key to a happy life. Balance can be about anything. E.g. Don’t take unnecessary sides of either your family (specially moms) or your wife, she understands you love your family and there is no woman who can take that place. But it is YOUR job that the woman you CHOSE to bring in to your life, is never reminded of that.
Hug her & Say Thank YOU
You have no idea how far this one goes. Do you know what it is like to slave away all day without a salary? To do night shifts and morning shifts in a row? To be available at all times regardless of your own health/mood/plans? Just a little acknowledgment can lift up her spirits. When she cooks or buys gifts for your family…acknowledge her generosity and buy her something pretty. Do not treat her as if that is her primary Goal in life. It is not. YOU are her primary goal. Your children are her primary objective. NOT your entire family.
I also previously I wrote an open letter Dear Parents of Daughters. Do check it out!